Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza – my full notes

My “full” notes don’t cover 3 areas of the book: (1) the lengthy description of how quantum physics work, (2) the lengthy description of how our neural networks work, (3) the details of Dispenza’s meditation process

The way to mastery is PHILOSOPHY (learning intellectual info) —> INITIATION (initiating that knowledge into life by applying it enough times until you MASTER it

If you wait for the blessing of science before trying new things, you are turning science into a religion. True personal power is thinking and acting outside the box


Chapter 1 – The Quantum You

We can’t have new experiences or a new reality without changing the way we see ourselves and the world

Your thoughts have consequences so great that they create your reality.

Descartes and Newton set in stone mechanistic principles for how the world works … little wonder that many of us still see ourselves as little more than victims (even if subconsciously)

Quantum physics’ discovery was that the person observing particles affects the behaviour of those particles (which are energy + matter) – “electrons exist simultaneously in an infinite array of possibilities or probabilities in an invisible field of energy”. The electron doesn’t manifest in our reality until we observe it, when all probabilities of the electron collapse into a physical event

We can change our lives by directing the observer effect and collapsing infinite waves of probability into the reality that we choose

“everything in our physical reality exists are pure potential”

“This means that the quantum field contains a reality in which you are healthy, wealthy, and happy, and possess all of the qualities and capabilities of the idealized self that you hold in your thoughts.”

Our consciousness can affect energy (matter) because our consciousness is energy and energy has consciousness

Important to note that it’s not only our brain that affects matter, but our body too. It is our state of being, when mind and body are one, that can affect the external world. 

We mainly communicate with the quantum field through our thoughts and feelings. 

Emotions have been scientifically shown to affect biological systems from our heart rates to samples of other people’s DNA. 

One of the central tenets of the book is that if you hold in your mind a clear objective + an elevated emotion (the latter acting as an energiser), you can make your thoughts become things. Feelings and thoughts need to be unified into a state of being. “The quantum field responds not to what we want; it responds to who we are being.”

J.D describes thoughts as the electrical charge in the quantum field and feelings as the magnetic charge. Our thoughts send an electrical signal out and our feelings magnetically draw events back to us. “This should prompt us to ask, What am I broadcasting (consciously or unconsciously) on a daily basis?

Only by changing our state of being —> generating a new electromagnetic signature, can we match a potential reality in the quantum field. As long as you stay the same person, you’ll generate the same outcomes. 

When your thoughts and feelings are aligned and coherent they are much more powerful. If for example you visualise what you want but feel guilty about wanting these things, you are confusing the signal and manifesting more guilt!

Similarly if you think wealthy but feel poor you’re not going to attract financial abundance.

Don’t try to control the outcome of what you’re trying to manifest – if you do you’re behaving in a Newtonian, cause-and-effect way. Want a quantum surprise instead! Hold a clear intention of what you want (along with an elevated emotion) but leave the ‘how’ to the quantum field.

Quantum creating – give thanks BEFORE you receive an outcome

We’ve been taught we need a reason to feel joy / gratitude. That’s Newtonian again. As quantum creators we need to change something within us (our thoughts and feelings) before we can experience the physical evidence with our senses.

If you can do this, you’re moving from cause and effect to causing an effect 

Feel gratitude as if the event has already occurred – remember your body can’t tell the difference between thoughts and reality 

When our minds and feelings match the universal consciousness, we are enacting and harnessing that consciousness. We get back what we send out. 

If we send signals that we’re suffering, we’re going to draw back an event to match that emotional frequency. Why don’t we send out a signal that will produce a positive outcome? 

When you do create purposefully, ask the universe for a sign that you’ve made contact with it. 

One reason quantum physics is so elusive is that for years we’ve been used to thinking based on our senses. In the quantum model our senses should be the last to experience what the mind has created

To enter the field we have go to beyond 3 things – our body, space and time

Don’t think in terms of cause and effect (If I lose weight then i’ll be happy) – change your way of being outside of time and space

JD illustrates this with a great story about his daughter, who wanted to manifest a 6 week paid working summer in Italy. He pointed out to her that instead of ‘being’ the girl who wants to go to Italy, she has to become the girl who’d been in Italy for the summer. “You can’t get up from your mental creation of this experience as the same person you were when you sat down. You have to get up from your seat as if you just had the most amazing summer of your life.” Needless to say, she manifested the entire trip exactly as she had wanted it, by changing her state so that she could cause an effect. The experience found her. 

Chapter 2 – overcoming your environment

To create something different from what you’re used to, you have to change the way you think & feel each day – if you keep thinking about your problems you only create more of the same kind of difficulties

Most of us are focused on and equal to – our environment, bodies and time. We need to think GREATER than these circumstances – we need to have an idealised self who is different from and better than the ME who exists right here, right now

Every day our environment reminds (RE-MINDS) us who we are. By always using the same brain hardware that matches what we remember, we’re focused on the past and can only create more of the same. 

We can’t expect different outcomes when we do the same thing every day

“It is our personality that creates our personal reality. So to create a new personal reality, a new life, we must create a new personality; we must become someone else.”

All great people in history had a vision of a future potential reality that didn’t match their current environment – this vision was so real that they began to live as if it were already happening. They didn’t need any immediate feedback from the environment, or sensory / physical evidence. Their minds were ahead of their present environment.

When we are truly focused, the brain doesn’t know the difference between the internal and external worlds. 

We all use 4 elements to change our brains / learn a new skill:

  1. learning (making synaptic connections)

  2. instruction (getting the body involved) 

  3. pay attention to it

  4. repeat

“If you can influence your brain to change before you experience a desired future event, you will create the appropriate neural circuits that will enable you to behave in alignment with your intention before it becomes a reality in your life.” 

Chapter 3 – overcoming your body

Our body reacts to our thoughts (eg thinking about sex or food). When you have joyful or loving thoughts your body produces chemicals that match those thoughts. Same for negative thoughts

As we begin to feel the way we are thinking, we start to think the way we are feeling. This becomes a state of being

But years of thinking the same thoughts and then feeling the same way leads to a memorised state of being. Then we define ourselves by this – “I have always been short-tempered”

To change is to think greater than how we feel

By 35, 95% of who we are each day is subconscious programmes. So for 95% of the day we are unconscious

No wonder the conscious 5% (I want to stop eating unhealthy food) doesn’t stand a chance against the subconscious – and yet we expect something different to happen in our lives

Because the chemicals that the body has made to mirror our thoughts are so familiar, on some level it feels good to feel bad. Our mind and body are in opposition

To take it further, our internal chemical state keeps activating the same genes, wearing them out, and the body starts to break down (saggy skin, wasted muscles etc)

Epigenetics show that our emotions can turn gene sequences on and off – lots of detail in this chapter

What we want to do is pick a potential from the quantum field and emotionally embrace it so many times that we condition the body to a new mind and signal genes in new ways

Scientific study showed that people who mentally rehearsed finger exercises showed a 22% increase in muscle strength vs those who didn’t. In this case the body changed physically to look like an experience had happened, just by thought alone. “This offers evidence that the event has already transpired in our reality.”

Chapter 4 – overcoming time

The reason staying present is so important: In the moment, all potentials exist simultaneously in the field. When we stay present we can move beyond space & time and make any of those potentials a reality. We can’t do this if we’re mired in the past.

Moods (chemical states that express a prolonged emotional reaction) can become temperaments which can become personality traits. Therefore most personality traits are based on past emotions.

Say you get invited to a bbq at a co-worker that you dislike. You spend time obsessing over past run-ins with him and you dread the event. Sure enough, it’s a disaster. But given your attitude it couldn’t have turned out any other way. You alternated about obsessing over what would come next, and living in the past, so you created more of the same.

Harness that energy and instead, obsess about a new positive, desired experience that you haven’t yet embraced emotionally (like his daughter’s trip to Italy)

Peak experiences are key to transcending the Big 3 (body, time, environment) – when you’re in a flow state you’re oblivious to all of them – writing, driving, sitting in nature. 

Chapter 5 – survival vs creation

Stress is a great example of the damage of not being present – we’re either recollecting or anticipating stress responses

The more we ID ourselves as purely physical beings, the more we limit ourselves to only perceiving with our senses. Then we allow our senses to both define and determine our reality

When we are in survival mode, our vibrations are lower. Negative feelings ground us into being physical (anger, shame etc) because they carry a lower frequency. More elevated emotions like love and gratitude are higher in frequency, more energy-like and less material – by channeling these emotions we can get closer to the quantum field / universal intelligence

It’s understandable that we define ourselves by the external world – we do it to feel human

BUT “the more we define reality through our senses, the more this reality becomes our law. And material reality as law is the very opposite of the quantum law.”

When you are in creative mode you are living as a nobody – existing outside of the external factors that make us a ‘somebody’ – you’ve moved beyond space and time and become pure, immaterial awareness.

To control any aspect of your life you must transcend it. You must leave behind the Big Three in order to control the Big Three.

Because of our metacognitive capabilities (ability to observe ourself) we can decide how we no longer want to be / think / act / feel

Whether or not you are aware of your beliefs, you accept them as the law in your life. 

You want to become self aware so that no unwelcome thought / action / emotion passes by your awareness

We can engage our frontal lobe in creation by setting aside time and space to think about who we want to be. 

A useful start is to move into wonder / contemplation / reflection with open questions like ‘What would it be like to …” The answers will naturally form a new mind as your brain works in new ways

In the creative process the frontal lobe turns down the volume on the sensory centres, then we become ‘no thing’ – we are pure consciousness. And we don’t therefore emit our usual chemical signature – the energy moves up to the brain to create joyful, elevated, expansive emotions which allow you to let go of the outcome (vs in survival mode where the ego will try to control / force the outcome). The reason you let go of the outcome is that you have already felt the emotion and the related gratitude so you trust that it will happen


Chapter 6 – Three brains: thinking to doing to being

Driving a car was at first thinking about everything, then paying attention to what you were doing, and then just simply being a driver where your subconscious took over

But meditation can get you straight from thinking to being

Thinking = neocortex

Doing = limbic or emotional brain

Being = cerebellum – subconscious

The neocortex processes knowledge / ideas that you have not experienced, which exist as a potential for you to embrace in the future

The limbic brain uses new experiences to create new emotions – it’s a way for the body to record the event chemically and EMBODY what you learn (this is why we can remember emotional moments in great detail)

Then the cerebellum stores habitual thoughts, attitudes and behaviours (like your password!!) in the subconscious

When you can become aware of who you are being, you are becoming conscious of your unconscious self

From here, to create a new state of being you need to be able to reproduce feelings of eg compassion at will, independent of your environment – to MASTER it your internal chemical state needs to be greater than anything in your external world 

If you practice compassion and joy as much as you do suffering, you can master them too!

As humans we can go from thinking to being directly without experiencing it (eg salivating or hitting stress response when thinking about an upcoming presentation)

Meditation allows us to take all of our learnings on happiness / peace and then put ourselves in the position of practicing them, altering ourselves chemically / biologically / neurologically.

You will know if you have done this correctly because you will feel differently when you finish – you will leave the mediation as a different person

 The virtuous circle of coherent feelings – if you can send a coherent thought and feeling to the field (independent of the external world) then something different will show up in your life, and the powerful emotional response you get will inspire you to do it once again)

When you visualise a desired future event and your body experiences it as if it’s occurring now, you are experiencing the future now and are connected to all possibilities that exist in the quantum field

Chapter 7 – the gap

There is a gap between what we present to the world and who we really are. JD discovered that all his perceived happiness was just a response to external stimuli and that he was addicted to his environment 

Every time we memorise negative emotions we widen that gap. “If we sit long enough without doing anything, we begin to feel something. That something is who we really are.

Our memorized automatic programmes cover the vulnerable part of us for society

Keeping busy keeps these emotions at bay. “Midlife crises” are often a realisation of this gap, this emptiness. Some dive further into external distractions but some find the courage to sit and explore the gap.

When friends / family start to close their gap, it makes us uncomfortable because it changes our energetic connection with them – we don’t want them to lose their mind and find a new one!

“If we wait for anything outside us to make us happy, then we are not following the quantum law.” – we’re assuming cause and effect instead. 

You can’t try to figure out your life from the same consciousness that created it. Instead we need to un-memorize our self limiting emotions. “A memory without the emotional charge is called wisdom.” With every negative emotion we un-memorize we close the gap

Imagine how much creative energy you could unleash by releasing energy tied up in guilt /judgement / anxiety.

A big part of the book’s meditation process is peeling away the layers and closing the gap so you are happy and whole. This is when the universe respond favourably to you.

Chapter 8 – meditation, demystifying the mystical, and waves of your future

Think of meditation as being able to access the subconscious mind so you move away from being your beliefs / thoughts / emotions to observing them, and changing them to more productive models. 

First you have to stop being the old you, to make room for a new personality

Meditation allows us to reassert control over the subconscious programmes that have run us for too long

Sustained high beta brainwaves (stress) send the body into disorder with incoherent brain signals producing chaos

In beta, the outer world appears more real than our inner world. But the problems you’re trying to analyse can’t be solved while in high beta as you are without clarity.

Chapter 9 onwards focus on the detailed instructions for meditating. I haven’t covered these in the notes. 

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